I can only speak for myself on this, but over the years many of my clients have had similar experiences. How much of our lives to we spend enjoying vs being afraid? I have had many opportunities over the years to try new careers, move to new places, meet new people. I have taken advantage of very few of them. Why? Fear, my friends, fear.
Fear of failing, fear of being alone, fear of ….. (fill in the blank). I have stayed in the same area for most all of my life and I have been conservative in many ways because of fear. When I was 19 years old, I was offered an opportunity to move to Washington state to continue my education. A good friend had moved there and offered to help me get going if I wanted to come. After talking with well-meaning family and friends (I hope they were well-meaning), I didn’t go. I heard all about the bad things that good happen and it was even said that if I went I couldn’t come back. Needless to say, I didn’t go. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret it, but I do wonder what might have happened.
It’s 40 years later and I am again contemplating changes in my life, only this time, I don’t feel afraid. I feel excited. I know that I can make it wherever and whatever I do. I have taken risks in my life and often found that I learned a lot and met new people. I have decided that I am going to live the rest of my life enjoying it and not let fear get in the way. This is a process, it didn’t just happen, but I am glad that I am where I am and I am willing to take chances and have new adventures.
Life should be filled with joy, not fear. A little fear might be ok, but paralyzing fear is not. Courage is feeling fear and still proceeding. Not recklessly, but confidently. How do you want your life to be? How is it now? Put the emphasis on joy/enjoyment and see what a difference that can make once you put fear in its place!