I was listening to the radio today and a 60’s song, “The Worst That Could Happen” by the group Brooklyn Bridge was playing on the radio. And I have heard this song at least 100 times (I was growing up in the 60’s) and listen to a 60’s station quite often. But for the first time, I actually LISTENED to the lyrics of the song. After all these years, I finally paid attention to what I hearing.
It is a song about a man who is lamenting that a woman he cares about is marrying another man. I kinda knew that part already. For years, I have felt some sympathy for this person who is being left for another. But what I didn’t know, because I hadn’t really paid attention, was that he was lamenting that she had been in a relationship with a man who had no intention of ever marrying her (the singer) and she wanted to be married. One of the lines is that he can understand “you have a dream of your own” and it is almost like he’s forgiving her for wanting a more permanent, stable relationship than he intended to ever give. The chorus is, “maybe it’s the best thing for you, but it’s the worst that could happen to me.”
My point here that we are always allowing information to enter our airspace (mind) without really paying much attention to what is actually going on around us. As I listened to the song in detail, I realized I felt sorrier for the woman who had apparently waited for some time before moving on than I did the singer who was upset that his plans had not worked out in the way he imagined. Because I liked the music and I hadn’t realized what was actually being said, I didn’t really know what I was “liking”.
This experience reinforces my assertion that most of us go through life not really paying much attention to what we’re doing and what’s going on around us. We may focus on a particular issue or event (for a little while), but the rest of it is just “happening” and we are just “floating along”.
I would like to encourage people to be more intentional in their lives. Pay more attention and make choices that will get you to where you want to be. Don’t be like the singer in the song lamenting his lost love because he apparently made assumptions and let her get away; pay attention and make adjustments to make sure you are getting what you desire and not losing out to someone else who IS paying attention! And you know, even in the song, if we really listen, maybe it really wasn’t the worst thing that could happen!