The “Wrong” Answer

People are always afraid of getting things wrong.  We are afraid of giving a “wrong” answer or making a “wrong” decision.  I am not completely sure where we develop this aversion to being “wrong”, but I want to suggest that there is truly only ONE wrong answer in life. If you are making yourself miserable,…

Which Comes First?

Here’s just a short thought, which comes first: do things get better and then we feel better/calmer or do we feel better/calmer and then things get better?  (Newer version of the chicken and the egg scenario.) I have noticed that when I am feeling good/peaceful/calm, things seem to just flow very easily.  When I am…

Highs and Lows

One of my favorite quotes is from Florence Shinn: “One’s ships come in over a calm sea.”  I love that sentence and I finally understand it.  In life we all have the highs and the lows, but I have started to wonder how much we personally influence our highs and lows.  Further, I have noticed…

Being Clear

It is vitally important to be clear about what we want in life in order to achieve it.  It is also somewhat of a challenge to truly be clear about what we want in life.  Many of us believe that we are clear about our wants/goals.  I was one of those people.  It took me…

Getting in the Flow

There’s a lot of discussion about what makes life work best.  Is there a secret or magic?  What about the Law of Attraction?  Is it secular beliefs or spiritual beliefs? Is it being fully present in the moment or exploring the possibilities of the future? The options are, literally, limitless.  After many years of reading,…

Coincidence?

How many times do we hear people, including ourselves, say something is “just a coincidence”?  I hear it quite often.  I used to say it quite often.  Now I almost never use the word coincidence unless I am discussing someone else’s idea that something is coincidental. I used to be surprised when things would happen. …

Believing

What do you believe in?  Personally, professionally, spiritually, we all have things that we believe in life.  We have things that we believe are “supposed” to happen and we have lots of scenarios that we believe to be accurate.  Then, life steps in and our beliefs are shaken to the core and we are left…

Business is Business

Today’s post is both informational and a bit of a rant, so please bear with me.  I have had clients many times not understand why a service isn’t covered or why insurance companies sometimes don’t seem too concerned with the people they serve.  After all, look at the advertising on television.  Agents and adjusters who…

Who’s Responsible For How I Feel?

It has recently come to my attention that people forget who is in charge of their feelings.  In the past few weeks, I have been very busy and it has been awesome, but I keep hearing a message that bothers me, “so and so makes me feel…..” and the people saying it truly believe it…

Be a Fan, Not a Fanatic

As we get into the big games in football, baseball season is approaching, and hockey and basketball are in full swing, I think it is important to recognize the difference between being a Fan and being a Fanatic. I know that some of you may be thinking “fan is short for fanatic” and there is…

Changing the Inner Tapes

We all have things running through our brains that we are well aware of and we call these things thoughts!  But we also have many thoughts running through our brains that are out of our conscious awareness and we are affected by them, but we may not be very aware of them and therefore, we…

It’s What You Believe That Matters

Don’t the image fool you, this is about more than sports alone, but since sports is a big influence in many people’s lives, the football playoffs have started and the Olympics are coming, I chose this particular image.  Whether it’s sports, your career or life in general, what we believe to be true is a…