Seek and You Shall Find

What are you looking for in your life?  Are you looking for ways to be better?  Looking for ways of completing goals that you have set?  Looking for health and happiness?  Looking for reasons to be unhappy?  Looking at other people more than yourself? We live a world that has greatly changed in the last…

One of the keys: Appreciation

People always ask me, as both a counselor and a friend, what are the keys to a happy life?  It’s not one thing, but a few things that we often forget to do. One of the important things to remember is to appreciate everything. Huh!! How can I appreciate when don’t go well?  This morning,…

RESPECT

Aretha sang it best because respect is so important to all of us. It starts with respect for self. Then it branches out to respect for others, authority, etc.  The issue I often see is many people lack respect for themselves. Respect, like charity, begins at home. As we are growing up we are often…

The “Wrong” Answer

People are always afraid of getting things wrong.  We are afraid of giving a “wrong” answer or making a “wrong” decision.  I am not completely sure where we develop this aversion to being “wrong”, but I want to suggest that there is truly only ONE wrong answer in life. If you are making yourself miserable,…

Which Comes First?

Here’s just a short thought, which comes first: do things get better and then we feel better/calmer or do we feel better/calmer and then things get better?  (Newer version of the chicken and the egg scenario.) I have noticed that when I am feeling good/peaceful/calm, things seem to just flow very easily.  When I am…

Highs and Lows

One of my favorite quotes is from Florence Shinn: “One’s ships come in over a calm sea.”  I love that sentence and I finally understand it.  In life we all have the highs and the lows, but I have started to wonder how much we personally influence our highs and lows.  Further, I have noticed…

Being Clear

It is vitally important to be clear about what we want in life in order to achieve it.  It is also somewhat of a challenge to truly be clear about what we want in life.  Many of us believe that we are clear about our wants/goals.  I was one of those people.  It took me…

Getting in the Flow

There’s a lot of discussion about what makes life work best.  Is there a secret or magic?  What about the Law of Attraction?  Is it secular beliefs or spiritual beliefs? Is it being fully present in the moment or exploring the possibilities of the future? The options are, literally, limitless.  After many years of reading,…

Coincidence?

How many times do we hear people, including ourselves, say something is “just a coincidence”?  I hear it quite often.  I used to say it quite often.  Now I almost never use the word coincidence unless I am discussing someone else’s idea that something is coincidental. I used to be surprised when things would happen. …

Believing

What do you believe in?  Personally, professionally, spiritually, we all have things that we believe in life.  We have things that we believe are “supposed” to happen and we have lots of scenarios that we believe to be accurate.  Then, life steps in and our beliefs are shaken to the core and we are left…

Business is Business

Today’s post is both informational and a bit of a rant, so please bear with me.  I have had clients many times not understand why a service isn’t covered or why insurance companies sometimes don’t seem too concerned with the people they serve.  After all, look at the advertising on television.  Agents and adjusters who…

Who’s Responsible For How I Feel?

It has recently come to my attention that people forget who is in charge of their feelings.  In the past few weeks, I have been very busy and it has been awesome, but I keep hearing a message that bothers me, “so and so makes me feel…..” and the people saying it truly believe it…